If you ask around and find out that something is up with them, … Your openness to enjoy life will invite the right man in as long as you maintain good standards. I fell in love against my better judgement and now he’s in the wind. And you think: he could be the One. But hinging expectations on the man to be boyfriend material never works. He promises me absolutely the same things! I do not wish any ill will upon anybody I have dated in my post divorce era but I do not want to connect with them again either. My boyfriend and I live together and he was gone since yesterday at six am and didn’t think to text me back. Not waiting around for him. When he 1st came into town he met my family and my dad approved of him. he didnt text back just told his friend I guess becuz his friend ended up coming.. did that get him butt hurt? Beats me. I read the board and it seems this is a common trait of the Capricorn male to reappear and disappear. He doesn’t even know you. I told him that i love him. He wants my address we only been talking for 2weeks he called me his wife he now is mad with me because I would not give him my address so he could mail items to my house, Stay away from ANY guy who insists on getting your address unit you are comfortable. I don’t want to be his booty call. One of the reasons for … Bp. There was never time i didn’t want to meet him- I always have but was unsure of how stable he is with his issues. We’ll do it together. Hope you come back and try again. Men play games. I texted him yesterday but to tell him to tell his friend to come get something from my house. The Sagittarius man isn’t really the settling down type. It was devastating to do that and I have been hugely sad since, but when I told him I would no longer see him he was very nice and complimentary but every communication stopped, a huge sign for me. I keep hoping things will get better but they don’t. Is your Sag man acting distant, ignoring you or mad at you? anyways… and he answer me nicely .. anyway i didnt saw him at all after that first year in college. What To Do When Your Man Disappears: The Rubber Band Theory When he goes MIA, you do too. I just block them both from social media and my cell phone, Literally got a text from a guy who swears he wants to be with me but keeps disappearing on me. And even if he’s not in a relationship, I still want you to find someone who is available to spend time with and get to know. I just realize that neither of them are going to commit . Bp. Sagittarius men are somewhat aloof by nature. He still sends me a text or email once in a while I assume he does this when he is having a rough spot in his current relationship and wants some validation. Here are my thoughts on that: https://datelikeagrownup.com/friends-with-benefits-ruining-love-life/ – BP, because people, not necessarily you but other people catch feelings for the other person and when the person on the end of that attachment abuses this by coming and going and using them for sex it hurts the one with feelings. We broke up mutually and he stuck around as my friend but only when he was single and still lusting me. We met yesterday and we again had a thing. Ius d see a guy years ago he went back with his with years past he message me on Facebook I responded he was Divorce now and he was looking all over for me when I respond if you wanted to see me I made effort to see him in a week when I went with him he grab me he held me he touched my face and he said I love you and everything about you I love you I’m divorced now you have everything that I like your face your beauty just everything I wanna marry you I wanna be with you conclusion was we had sex and the next day we woke up it was Easter I had to go to San Diego to my children everything was great then after that I didn’t hear from him at allBut I finally got a hold of him he said he made everything he said but there was something else going on I don’t get it I’ve seen them a few times and he still tells me the same thing I’m madly in love with this guy I don’t know what to do what do I do, I was dating someone for four months who I really care for deeply . Sometimes the request is a date. Bp, The guy I met wants to get married he has a child he wants me to get to know. I’m tired of the dating scene. I knew him for a few years prior just as my sons coach. If an Aquarius man feels his freedom has been taken or encroached on, he will TAKE it back. Thanks for the additional info. The plague of these modern times due to technology. This guy is a pinger, And besides, texting his not dating. I still took the trip with my kids and I feel like everything he said, did or planned with us was a lie. Think about it: if you are carefree, dating around, having fun and aiming to attract the right man for you by radiating self-confidence, having a pinger does not matter. I”m really glad you’re here! But if he were honest with you, then he knows he is giving up any chance with you in the future. Just that this nice guy (who you hardly knew) may have moved on. why are you think that being naive especially in that age is somethinf bad? Desperate measures ? He will say "I will see you" then dissappear.He likes play a game. Bp, Well this guy 68 and myself 70 have known each other for a year….yep…he says I have to leave town for a few days because of work….really…then he does text and call even when away…and we do spend time together a week or more….he says i love you and want no other…but things at his house say different….so i am going to talk to him. I have no idea what to think? We have sex once or twice a week. However, at times it will seem that what he really wants is his own personal Cheerleader. Cancer man hasn't returned my call by: Anonymous Hmm well we have been seeing each other for two months I am Capricorn female, him Cancer. I received him and Friday hes gone. I have lots of options with other guys but I know myself and I know that simply “moving on” without a word or an attempt to get to the bottom of things will haunt me and make it harder to make room for another guy. I’m just at a total loss. Any input would be brilliant. He calls when he says he’s going to, he takes you out, and he tells you how great you are. i did send him an email that went Bp. I had to move home for 2 weeks before moving into a new apartment in the same area. So I dumped him and told him exactly why I wouldn’t accept that kind of relationship. Im back to work, spend time isolating, or with my, love or pinger, im hoping im wrong,,, stil…could really use supportive friends. But he misunderstood and thought I was flaked on him because i needed rest! he doesnt even really have a place to stay. Then I decided to take a leap to come visit him from other side of the world. I stopped responding. When an Aries man disappears, just let him be! piss me off. , Hi Mari. I tried few times to ask time to define our status but seemed that he didn’t want to move on or commit anything but he would say although we lived far apart from each other he won’t consider as a deal breaker. Being with Aries man, you have to accept the fact that he will do whatever he wants without explaining anything. how do I appear to him? He doesn’t make those sweeping promises like ‘ I’ll never hurt you’ as you’re telling him that he’s doing just that. So I texted him and told him…I give up. When you’re finally over a guy, he’s back with a vengeance and determined to win your heart again. I can come up with a lot of theories about what this may be but none of them make him look anything like a man who could make you a good partner. I absolutely adore him we have a great connection we chat for many hours we understand each other. But, I didn’t know there was a description of a type of guy like this. Then that same night he stopped talking again. Yes, I got my hopes up of maybe he is really into me? Step 2 Sex = connection for 99% of women. He gives me the excuse that his not very good at chattin.he prefers a face to face conversation.When I do,he gets impressively better which only lasts for a maximum of 3days and then his back to himself, Well,I realize dat am with a pinger.All the time am always havin to reevaluate our relationship and all.I’ve tried breaking with him once and he came back begging.I took him back,he was good for a while and then he started again.the problem is if I ignore his pings as you said,he’ll know something is up and beg anyway,is there not anything else I can do as a remedy, Just ignore him Tracy. The sad irony is that by sticking around you have lost his respect. It may be another woman, or not! I should have ended it way back then but I liked him and I figured relationships take time, etc. like.. it srarted to Haha. I had situations where they would go out without me to singles events that did not allow children on days I could not find a sitter. Also he never ask me anything too. He disappears... then reappears... then disappears. He still constantly looks me up & kept manipulating me in to giving him my new address. A Sagittarius man won't just stop trying though. I told him to stop contacting me because im tired of it all. Virgo man disappearing. Why does he do this to me… he made it very clear he didn’t want to see me again so why is he sending mixed signals. I know I have a pinger….and what’s worse we never had a date! we never called each other or having a video call before . and that we kissed. He has relationship issues Pingers don’t all of the sudden decide that you are a priority in their lives. After he mentioned us doing something else. Then reappears, only to be gone… He just keeps on doing that, and each time you tell yourself you won’t ever talk to him again! clear by saying like that , that hey “me too” i didnt have emotions.. like in some kind of way.. but im sure he didnt have cause as i said .. im Sounds like it’s all on his terms. We chatted alot for hours on the first day itself and then he called me, confessing that he really adores me. Bp We have no commitment yet. Om my,Kristy…this guy sounds like a shit show! There are a few who dont show him much attention ,and some do show him a lot of attention ,but he doesnt REALLY want anybody of them for something serious no matter what they do, it goes like this since many years already so its not just a short thing he does (he tells me most of his stories) . He seems like an overall fantastic guy and you’d gladly jump into bed with him. Couldnt meet up because he had family commitments the two following weekends. Then often the men did not want to go out with my child and so often my sitter canceled last minute or my child got sick….my heart was broken each time I could not go out due to responsibility of parenting. 2 days later he said “Im back now and I really want and can’t wait to finally meet you!” But makes no plan Been like that for 3 months without him or me mentioned about meeting up. I have noticed though he disappears when his issues seem to be on the high and it’s just easier to stop communication. I miss love but I just feel my heart can’t take anymore rejection or non sense. Lol everything you saying you describing my boyfriend and you know he also went on a 2 week vacation to Minnesota lol. Anyways, time went by and we didn’t end up meeting because of personal issues he has had with bipolar and at the time anytime he disappeared i continually thought it was something i did and soon learnt that he had these emotional issues to deal with. Then he started pulling away. I’m not sure whether to attribute this to his work as he just changed job and work keeps him busy. He’s one of those few assholes. Bp, Newly single. The chance of a long-distance relationship like this succeeding is very slim. and yeah i checked it out … lol.. Maybe we can do something again (doesn’t have to be anything to do with motorbikes lol) Hugs. Lord help us! That escalated into what I thought was becoming a serious relationship, but then the disappearing act started. Gave him the long arm treatment and eventually met up in March. Invited me out to dinner and to meet up at his house. well he hasnt really kalled me or anything in 2.days... im jus wondering if he feels hes over doing it? A Sagittarius man who isn't happy in a relationship won't find it difficult to say so, even if his partner feels blind-sided. Move on. He'll give you a chance, every chance to redeem yourself. Since that night no reply or call…go figure…?? I miss him but I also feel free and better yet my kids are okay as they were not that attached to him. and a bunch happened Im gerting divorced , my ex stalks/harrasses called cody when he got out of jail etc. Next! If someone bores them they go to the next one and come BACK after when they want you again, and that goes on and on. after 8 months, one night after o few drinks I checked his phone, I know its wrong but I had to, I just had enough doubts, and I was right, I saw text from two women. Dating doesn’t have to be depressing Tricia unless you make it that way. Bp, Thanks Bobbi I kno he likes me kuz he does things, Dumb thingz jus to get my attention or to hang out with me.. and one of his good friends told me herself he liked me. I am so confused and heartbroken . But ow Heck if you do not answer when they send something when they are in need of their “fix” So, Im the one whose asked him if he wanna grab coffee on the weekend. We started talking last November. Just wait for his reply. It had nothing to do with you offering up a date. My answer is “probably.’ When we don’t have expectations of being treated a certain way and we don’t take care of ourselves by setting boundaries (while treating them kindly as well)…then the men who are jerks will take advantage.